Share Your Story
Share Your Story
Sharing
your story, your history, and your journey can make you feel valued, vulnerable,
and exposed. It is that very characteristic that makes it all the more
admirable and important to be shared.
Sharing
your story will…
1. Help You Connect with Others
Sharing
your story is the fastest and most efficient way to establish rapport with
strangers.
Your
story unveils your personality and experiences, as well as your attitude during
the challenges. It reveals the totality of who you are so that people who are
like you, who are interested in your kind of person, or who are experiencing
the same challenges, can draw closer and connect.
Sharing
your story makes you feel vulnerable because it strips you of all facades and
walls – it essentially makes you naked. This sort of emotionally turns on the
right people, whilst repelling those who cannot relate.
2. Give your Perspective and
Clarity
By
going over your story, as you narrate it to others in great detail, you gain
perspective and clarity since you are reviewing all the parts of the experience,
step by step.
By
spreading your story out, events and experiences find their way to the
microscope of your scrutiny as your ears taste them, and then the analysis of
listeners.
Sharing
your story enables you to better understand what happened, how it happened, and
how you should take it (i.e., the lessons you can draw from it). Most times,
when you go over a story multiple times, you gain deeper insights, though this
is not always the case.
3. Give Hope & Inspire
Other People
Reality
is weird, and our existence on this planet is more or less a Déjà vu (where
one thing repeats itself over and over again), except that it repeats in the
lives of different people at different times.
That
is to say, all the challenges you’ve overcome are probably being experienced by
someone else at this moment, and would be experienced by so many others in the
future, maybe in some other form or iteration.
It
also means that all your past experiences were probably experienced by someone
else, and you would have drawn strength from them had you known.
Now
think how much more trouble it would save you if you knew how to
avoid/overcome/endure the challenges you were facing now. So, you see, in the
end, sharing stories makes your life, and the lives of others, easier.
“You
are not a victim for sharing your story. You are a survivor for setting the
world on fire with your truth. And you never know who needs your light, your
warmth, and raging courage.”
Your Story is Valuable
Your
story is as valuable and can be as impactful as those of all the famous people
whose stories you've heard in the past.
There
are a lot of topics – such as religion, politics, sex, addictions,
spirituality, and so on – that people feel uncomfortable talking about, yet
those topics are often the ones closest to our hearts (because they mean the
most to us).
Carefully
opening up about them as part of your story can enable you to free your mind of
the burden, and then it will get other people on board as they share their
perspectives and even stories. In the end, you end up having most of your
doubts and worries cleared.
Needless
to say, the way you share a story is important.
There
is much more power in sharing our stories than we often think. What may seem
ordinary to you can be extraordinary to someone else.
The
most impactful stories are those that are necessary, useful, delivered
honestly, and with the right intent.
Just
as words are invisible, the impact of our stories is not easily perceptible,
not until they start affecting people's behaviours. And it's these behaviours
that go on to change things dramatically.
5
Transformative Steps to Change Your Story & Free Your Mind Many personal development
experts state that the reality that we’re living
in today is largely a result of our past thoughts and behaviours. Do you believe that? Does your general attitude
and situations in life correlate with past thoughts and behavior? Do you become what you think? The jury is out on just how
much of our thoughts and actions correlate with our current reality. After
all, even the happiest, most peaceful people in life experience challenging
circumstances, loss, and genuine struggle. However, exploring the
correlation of our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and actions against our
current life situation may not be a bad idea. If you find yourself happy
and peaceful most of the time, why is this? If you’re not thrilled with
your life in various areas, why do you think that is? Perhaps it’s time to do a
little digging into your thought life to see if the types
of thoughts you’re thinking are influencing your current reality. If you lean toward the
negative side, perhaps it’s time to free yourself from negativity little by
little. Maybe today you can boldly declare it as the first day of the rest of
your awesome life.
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your life? Read this next: What Do You Really Want Out of Life? Today we're looking at 5 ways
you can begin to free your mind from negative thoughts, beliefs, or
patterns.
1. Un-Clutter Your Mind Your thoughts have a great
deal to do with your attitude and behavior, as your thoughts affect beliefs
and beliefs affect behavior. To create a better life, it’s
important to gauge your thought life and see how your thoughts have been. Do a bit of meditation to
declutter your mind. Take time to just sit in silence and observe the kinds
of thoughts running through your mind.
If you’re not sure, ask those
closest to you if they consider you more of a positive or negative person.
Sometimes our loved ones can see more about us than we can. Do your best to eliminate
negative influences in your life, like thoughts, stories, and maybe even some
people. If you’re a pessimist, it’s time to declare that you will be a
happy-go-lucky optimist and do the necessary inner healing work to make the
change. 2. Change Your Story If you’re not happy with the
story you’re telling people, then it’s time to tell a new story. The biggest influence on
human behavior is the story we tell ourselves in our head. If you change your
story, you change our world. - Chris Agnos, Founder of Sustainable Human If you’re not happy in your
job, relationship, financial state, etc. then it’s time to admit it and then
take the necessary steps to change what needs changed. Contrary to what you
may believe, you’re not stuck where you are. If you feel stuck, it’s only
because you’re telling the same old story over and over, but at any
time, you can create a new story. You can take full responsibility
for your life from this day forward and change the script. Even if it feels hard to
start thinking and speaking more positively, do it anyway. Do whatever it
takes to just start thinking and speaking positivity, rather than dwelling on
the negative. 3. Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway Sure, it can be fearful to
think about change. It’s scary to think about changing jobs, lovers,
location, etc. Sometimes people get
comfortable with their fears and shy away from creativity, risk, adventure,
and change. The problem with this is that it leads to apathy, boredom, and frustration
and stifles the spirit. You’re not bound by your past. You
don’t have to continue on the same mediocre path. You don’t have to beat
yourself up about past decisions or setbacks. Dare to embrace fear and dream
a new dream. That’s called courage. Allow courage to rise within you and
declare that you’re going to make some changes for the better in your life.
You won't settle for the status quo any longer!
You’re going to draw a line
in the sand and not allow negative thoughts or negative people to cross it.
You’re going to get serious about change! 4. Challenge Your Beliefs Have you been prone to
believe that this is as good as life gets? That your current job or
financial status the best you’re going to experience? Is mediocrity fine?
Perhaps you can challenge such beliefs. Successful, peaceful, and
happy people don’t settle for what is easy or what is comfortable. They also
don’t let the past keep them from changing things up in the future. Challenge your beliefs.
Get honest with yourself.
If so, today is your day to
break free from all negativity and doubt and declare a new life! Declare that
you’re going to begin telling a new story. 5. Create A Plan You’re first step is to take
some time to think about where you are and where you want to go. Get motivated. Write down a
list of your goals.
Write it all down. Then
make a plan as to how you will work your way toward the manifestation of your
goals. Create an action plan. Want a
new career? Begin researching careers. If you want more money, create a
budget, follow it, get a new or second job, etc. Are you looking for a new
relationship? Begin dating again. Goals are great, but without action, you
won’t get very far. Life Can Change Wherever you are right now
and no matter what your past has been like, things can change. Life can change. You can change. Your attitude and environment
can change. Don’t allow self-defeating
beliefs to hold you back any longer. Create a new story and begin taking
steps toward your new goals. You can experience more peace and joy along your
journey. And, it’s what you deserve.
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& How to Keep Out of It Many people fear conflict.
Others thrive on it. But chances are, conflict has
caused a lot of anxiety and strife in our lives and the lives of those around
us. Because conflict can often lead to such negative and destructive
outcomes, we can often blame conflict itself for ruining our relationships, stability,
or lives. But it's not the conflict's
fault. It's us. The quality of our lives
depends not on whether or not we have conflicts, but on how we respond to
them. - Thomas Crum We are all so
different. And those inherent differences will always lead to conflict.
Compassion, empathy, and understanding can help keep those conflicts from
escalating to prejudice or violence. We all want the same things
in life: to feel safe, stable, connected, and cared for.
But what that looks like and how we get there is where our paths diverge. And
since we can't read each other's minds, we must communicate our needs and
expectations without judging or criticizing someone who might be on the other
side. And here is where things can
get tricky and go very, very wrong. Most of us have responded
poorly to conflict at some point in our lives, and we don't know why things
blew up or broke down so quickly. But how you respond to
conflict is only half the story. You can't control how others
respond; you can only try your best to steer the conversation back into
constructive territory. So here are 4 less-than-stellar responses to
conflict, and how to make sure yours is healthy. 4 Responses to Conflict & How You Can
Keep Yourself Out of It
#1 - Offense Some people thrive on
conflict and use it to fuel their aggression and air their grievances. They
will take any opportunity to get involved in conflict and may create conflict
where there is none. Conflict is a way to break up
the monotony of life and get their blood pumping and that dopamine and
adrenaline flowing. These people thrive on drama, but things can quickly
escalate into harassment, threats, or violence. Healthier Response: While
conflict is a necessary part of life, it is not a way of life and
cannot be used to dominate, intimidate, or manipulate others. Remain calm,
listen, and respond with care and compassion. Stay out of conflict whenever
possible and resolve it wherever necessary. #2 - Defense Conflict very often evokes a
defensive response in people. In this case, conflict feels like an attack,
and a natural reaction to attack is defence. But defensiveness can easily
slip into dismissiveness, justification, and counter attacks. Even if the
basis of the conflict is inaccurate and the issues brought forth are not your
burden, you still bear the responsibility to respond constructively and
healthily. Healthier Response: Don't
dismiss the other's concerns without addressing their merit or your role in
the matter, or lack thereof. Try not to justify your
actions or words, inappropriate or not. Instead, acknowledge them and the way
they could have been interpreted, and negatively impacted the other
person. Do not attack the other person, even if they are attacking
you. It is hard to resist, but fire needs water, not fuel. #3 - Submit Some people are naturally
submissive and assume any conflict brought to them is somehow their fault. These people often make
themselves responsible for others' attitudes, misunderstandings, and
emotions. Even if they know they're not actually at fault, they will
apologize anyway just to appease the other person and smooth things over. This doesn't resolve anything
and teaches the other person that they can dominate others to get what they
want and don't have to take responsibility for their role in anything. Healthier Response: It
is important to figure out what the actual conflict is about and delegate who
is responsible for what. You can acknowledge your role
while also holding others accountable for theirs. Make sure to note that
everyone's feelings belong to them, and just because someone feels offended
or put upon doesn't mean an offense has occurred. Sometimes, nothing was done
wrong, and people still get hurt. #4 - Avoid A lot of people try to avoid
conflict altogether. They ignore the other side's
gripes, bow out of conversations, or end relationships just to avoid
confrontation. This doesn't help either. Ignoring someone can add just as
much fuel as firing back at them. And the person who has a problem
with you will always be the one controlling the narrative. Healthier Response: Conflict
cannot be avoided, and doesn't automatically mean fighting or confrontation. There will be people and
situations in life you can't walk away from, so it is best to learn how to
handle conflict now so you don't create more problems by letting them grow. Peace is not absence of
conflict; it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means. - Ronald Reagan You Don't Need to Be Afraid of Conflict Conflict is a part of life. It forces us to communicate
openly. It exposes our deepest desires, fears and biases. Conflict is not a
negative we need to stamp out, it is a natural part of life that needs to be
recognized for the good it can do. There's no getting away from
it, so it's best to learn to live in harmony with it. You can choose to use
conflict as a tool of growth instead of shunning it like a dirty secret. Keep your responses to
conflict healthy and constructive, and try to recognize when you are
straying. It can feel like a struggle and the stakes can be very high, but at
the end you'll know where you stand and have a better idea of how to navigate
your world.
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