Share Your Story

 Share Your Story 

Sharing your story, your history, and your personal journey can make you feel valued, vulnerable, and exposed. In fact, it is that very characteristic that makes it all the more admirable and important to be shared.

Sharing your story will…

1. Help You Connect with Others

Sharing your story is the fastest and most efficient way to establish rapport with strangers.

Your story unveils your personality and experiences, as well as your attitude during the challenges. It reveals the totality of who you are so that people who are like you, who are interested in your kind of person, or who are experiencing the same challenges, can draw closer and connect.

Sharing your story makes you feel vulnerable because it actually strips you of all facades and walls. This emotionally turns on the right people, whilst repelling those who cannot relate.

2. Give your Perspective And Clarity

By going over your story, as you narrate it to others in great detail, you gain perspective and clarity since you are reviewing all the parts of the experience, step by step.

By spreading your story out, events and experiences find their way to the microscope of your scrutiny as your ears taste them, and then the analysis of listeners.

Sharing your story enables you to better understand what happened, how it happened, and how you should take it (i.e. the lessons you can draw from it). Most times, when you go over a story multiple times, you gain deeper insights, though this is not always the case. 

3. Give Hope & Inspire Other People

Reality is weird, and our existence on this planet is more or less a Déjà vu (where one thing repeats itself over and over again), except that it repeats in the lives of different people at different times.

That is to say, all the challenges you’ve overcome are probably being experienced by someone else at this moment, and would be experienced by so many others in the future, maybe in some other form or iteration.

It also means that all your past experiences were probably experienced by someone else, and you would have drawn strength from them had you known.

Now think how much more trouble it would save you if you knew how to avoid/overcome/endure the challenges you were facing now. So, you see, in the end, sharing stories makes your life, and the lives of others, easier.

"You are not a victim for sharing your story. You are a survivor for setting the world on fire with your truth. And you never know who needs your light, your warmth, and raging courage."

Your Story is Valuable

Your story is as valuable, and can be as impactful as that of all the famous people whose stories you've heard in past.

There are a lot of topics – such as religion, politics, sex, addictions, spirituality, and so on – that people feel uncomfortable talking about, yet those topics are often the ones closest to our hearts (because they mean the most to us).

Carefully opening up about them as part of your story can enable you to free your mind of the burden, and then it will get other people on board as they share their perspectives and even stories. In the end, you end up having most of your doubts and worries cleared.

Needless to say, the way you share a story is important.

There is much more power in sharing our stories than we often think. What may seem ordinary to you can be extraordinary to someone else.

The most impactful stories are those which are necessary, useful, and delivered clearly, honestly, and with the right intent.  

Just as words are invisible, the impact of our stories is not easily perceptible, not until they start affecting people's behaviours. And it's these behaviours that go on to change things dramatically.

5 Transformative Steps to Change Your Story & Free Your Mind Many personal development experts state that the reality we’re living in today is largely a result of our past thoughts and behaviours. Do you believe that? Do your general attitude and situations in life correlate with past thoughts and behaviour? Do you become what you think? The jury is out on just how much of our thoughts and actions correlate with our current reality. After all, even the happiest, most peaceful people in life experience challenging circumstances, loss, and genuine struggle. However, exploring the correlation of our thoughts, attitudes, beliefs, and actions against our current life situation may not be a bad idea. If you find yourself happy and peaceful most of the time, why is this? If you’re not thrilled with your life in various areas, why do you think that is? Perhaps it’s time to do a little digging into your thought life to see if the types of thoughts you’re thinking are influencing your current reality. If you lean toward the negative side, perhaps it’s time to free yourself from negativity little by little. Maybe today you can boldly declare it as the first day of the rest of your awesome life. Do you know what you want in your life? Read this next: What Do You Really Want Out of Life?  Today, we're looking at 5 ways you can begin to free your mind from negative thoughts, beliefs, or patterns.  Commit to a newer, more positive mindset and do a little experimenting. See if a higher mindset actually changes your outer world. Take the next weeks or months to really make a solid commitment to changing your inner landscape and see if it impacts your outer landscape. You may even want to journal daily to track your journey.  1. Un-Clutter Your Mind Your thoughts have a great deal to do with your attitude and behaviour, as your thoughts affect beliefs and beliefs affect behaviour.  To create a better life, it’s important to gauge your thought life and see how your thoughts have been. Do a bit of meditation to declutter your mind. Take time to just sit in silence and observe the kinds of thoughts running through your mind. Are you more of a positive or negative person? Do you tend to think fearful, doubtful, and negative thoughts or happy, confident, and positive thoughts? If you’re not sure, ask those closest to you if they consider you more of a positive or negative person. Sometimes our loved ones can see more about us than we can. Do your best to eliminate negative influences in your life, like thoughts, stories, and maybe even some people. If you’re a pessimist, it’s time to declare that you will be a happy-go-lucky optimist and do the necessary inner healing work to make the change.  2. Change Your Story If you’re not happy with the story you’re telling people, then it’s time to tell a new story. The biggest influence on human behaviour is the story we tell ourselves in our heads. If you change your story, you change our world. -  If you’re not happy in your job, relationship, financial state, etc., then it’s time to admit it and take the necessary steps to change what needs to be changed. Contrary to what you may believe, you’re not stuck where you are.  If you feel stuck, it’s only because you’re telling the same old story over and over, but at any time, you can create a new story. You can take full responsibility for your life from this day forward and change the script. Even if it feels hard to start thinking and speaking in a more positive way, do it anyway. Do whatever it takes to just start thinking and speaking positivity, rather than dwelling on the negative. 3. Feel The Fear and Do It Anyway Sure, it can be fearful to think about change. It’s scary to think about changing jobs, lovers, locations, etc.  Sometimes people get comfortable with their fears and shy away from creativity, risk, adventure, and change. The problem with this is that it leads to apathy, boredom, and frustration and stifles the spirit. You’re not bound by your past. You don’t have to continue on the same mediocre path. You don’t have to beat yourself up about past decisions or setbacks. Dare to embrace fear and dream a new dream. That’s called courage. Allow courage to rise within you and declare that you’re going to make some changes for the better in your life. You won't settle for the status quo any longer! You’re going to draw a line in the sand and not allow negative thoughts or negative people to cross it. You’re going to get serious about change! 4. Challenge Your Beliefs Have you been prone to believe that this is as good as life gets? That your current job or financial status the best you’re going to experience? That Is mediocrity fine? Perhaps you can challenge such beliefs. Successful, peaceful and happy people don’t settle for what is easy or what is comfortable. They also don’t let the past keep them from changing things up in the future.  Challenge your beliefs. Get honest with yourself. Are you settling? Are you afraid? Do you allow self-defeating beliefs to prevail? If so, today is your day to break free from all negativity and doubt and declare a new life! Declare that you’re going to begin telling a new story. 5. Create A Plan You’re first step is to take some time to think about where you are and where you want to go.  Get motivated. Write down a list of your goals. What do you want? More money? A career you actually like? More freedom? A new partner? Friends? Start your own business?  Write it all down.  Then make a plan as to how you will work your way toward the manifestation of your goals.  Create an action plan. Want a new career? Begin researching careers. If you want more money, create a budget, follow it, get a new or second job, etc. Are you looking for a new relationship? Begin dating again. Goals are great, but without action, you won’t get very far.  Life Can Change Wherever you are right now and no matter what your past has been like, things can change. Life can change. You can change. Your attitude and environment can change. Don’t allow self-defeating beliefs to hold you back any longer. Create a new story and begin taking steps toward your new goals. You can experience more peace and joy along your journey. And, it’s what you deserve.